A Facebook friend sent me this message the other day:
"Okay sweetheart, I know you are the master of "nomadic" life and I'm about to step off the cliff and fly into that same reality. HELP! I'd love to hear any sage wisdom you wish to share that can include:
- A method for getting rid of things I don't need/want any more (how do you figure that out with the harder ones).
- Sitting in faith every day and allowing the "flow" to happen.
- How much do you create and how much do you just let the divine take over?
As you might be able to tell, I'm very excited, and very scared at the moment.
Would love your support. XOXOXO"
#1: Letting Go
Sell as much as you can at yard sales and on Craigslist or Ebay. If you've never tried the online route, give it a shot - it's kind of amazing what people will buy online. Then give the rest to friends, then give the remainder to Goodwill or Salvation Army or a local battered woman's charity.
For the stuff that's harder to let go of - Ask friends to come over and help you purge. They can give you a more decisive “get rid of it” (or an “I’ll hold it for you!”). The "I’ll hold it for you" makes it easier to let go. I just remembered I gave a friend my favorite chair. It was my first-ever piece of furniture, sky blue velvet and comfy as hell. I don’t even want it anymore and it doesn’t matter whether or not she still has it - I just needed her to take care of it while I detached and moved on.
Go deep into the "why’s" of the things you want to hold on to. Why do you “need” this? What does it add to your idea of yourself as a person? What if you let go of it? Would you live? Would you be ok? Would you be less of a person? Is that true?
Pick up the thing and feel what you feel in your body. Is it pure joy, or is it stress? Does it bring your energy up or down? Keep only joy.
I realized over years of fighting packratism and through the process of divesting myself of 3/4 of my possessions before moving to Argentina that there are a lot of emotions caught up in our stuff. We equate our stuff to our sense of selves. We have hope that our stuff will make us more, better - more valuable, more beautiful, more desirable. Whether that's clothing to gain attention or just piles of stuff to make us feel safe or reminders from the past so we have physical proof of our value and worthiness as a person - there's a lot going on underneath the surface of our stuff. So I find it's important to sit with the emotions that come up. What am I afraid of losing if I let go of this? What am I afraid will happen in the future if I don't still have this?
#2: Keeping the Faith
“Leap and the net will appear.”
For the months leading up to my big leap into nomadic living, I had that quote taped to the dashboard of my car.
Surround yourself with quotes, affirmations and reminders from the people who have made the leaps and tell you “you can do this!” rather of filling your head with fear and doubt. For now, during this vulnerable time of transition, if you have any worryers/fearmongers/doubters, you might think about cutting them out of your life for a bit. You need words of en-courage-ment, not fear.
Find inspiration – people’s stories, books, websites, etc. Expose yourself daily. These are like sunshine is Vitamin D for your soul, your dreams. Nourish your dreams.
Some of my favorite leap quotes that got me through:
"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did. So throw off the bowlines, Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover." - H. Jackson Brown Jr.
"Life is a fatal adventure.
It can only have one end.
So why not make it as far-ranging
and free as possible." - Alexander Eliot
“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.” - William Hutchison Murray
"Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors where there were only walls." - Joseph Campbell
#3: Creation vs Flow
How much to plan vs. how much to go with the flow? Create as much as is fun. If you’re really stressed, plan as much as you need to feel safe. But also know that you're not ultimately in control, and when the plans you've worked so hard at making shift or fall apart, look for the synchronicity, the grace, the opportunity and potential that opens up with the falling apart. The more you experience that things STILL work out, despite your plans not panning out, the more comfortable you'll feel depending on the divine unfolding of everything. Then it all becomes play. Be open. Keep track of how things work out when it seems like they're not working out.
Remember, your life is a story, and you're the writer. Die with a good story. If you try this out and decide it's not for you, you can always go back to your old lifestyle.
Enjoy your adventure!!!